They were not to be found in the supermarket, and in China, drugstores are drugstores, not mini-markets. The New Year and birthday cards are located easily enough, as are the ubiquitous hóngbao, or red envelopes in which money is given for the holiday.
Those are actually closer to being more useful to Chinese mourners, who will leave money at the wake of someone who has died as a sign of the respect to the family and to help defray the costs of the funeral. According to a thorough explanation of Chinese funeral customs at www.chinaculture.org, family members also are given red packets at the burial, though red is a symbol of happiness. (For example, the corpse is never dressed in red, for that would turn the deceased into a ghost.)
Aside from being amused by this observation, Dick Wicks might say I was taking the long way around the barn. Dick, my father-in-law, died March 2 at age 80. He was the kind of guy who had a knack for immediately relaxing those around him. He just had a genial way about him, and his picture ought to be placed under any heading for “ideal grandfather.”
Attempting to reiterate this point to my daughter, I made a reference to Dick being right out of a George Orwell painting, conjuring a somewhat bizarre “Big Grandpa” image when the more comforting Norman Rockwell model had been intended. That, no doubt, would have prompted a chuckle from Dick as well.
Awhile back, on a night when fireworks were going off in Yangzhou, a former student informed me that they might be for someone’s birthday or funeral.
Dick Wicks deserved fireworks.
Forgot to mention: Another way in which the Chinese honor their late loved ones is coming up Tuesday, April 5. It’s called Qingming Jie, or Tomb Sweeping Day. Family members tend to graves, sweeping away dirt, pulling weeds, and leave offerings of food and spirit money (typically paper). According to a China Daily article, a trendy offering on some store shelves in Guangzhou are iPads and iPhones made out of paper. A paper MacBook goes for six yuan.